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- BOOKS, Page 78Batteries Not Included
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- By MARGARET CARLSON
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- WOMEN ON TOP
- By Nancy Friday
- Simon & Schuster; 460 pages; $22
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- Nancy Friday's latest compilation of musings from women
- who responded anonymously to her sex questionnaire -- about as
- representative a group of people as those who call radio talk
- shows -- would not be quite so annoying if Friday didn't insist
- on patting herself on the back for her courage in pasting them
- together. Oh, the relief and gratitude women feel now that the
- Truth Can Finally Be Told by the dauntless Friday, selflessly
- taking on "the sex haters who will stop at nothing" to silence
- her.
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- Pity poor Friday, who has had to endure the hostility of
- several women friends who cannot stand her success or "bear
- seeing pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, in another." She
- has also had to give up being taken seriously by all "the
- enemies of sex," like the TV anchorman who sits next to her at
- a dinner party and hastens to tell her that he has not bought
- her book. "Was he afraid," she asks, "that I might think he'd
- purchased my book and then gone home to masturbate, he, an
- opinion maker who appears nightly on millions of TV screens?"
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- All this sacrifice in the cause of bringing us the
- four-page fantasy of Tara, who dreams of being restrained for
- an entire night by a man performing acts that produce intense
- pain, require plastic sheets and extra-absorbent diapers and
- include an invasive medical procedure usually confined to a
- hospital and the intake of a gallon of ice-cold liquid. Hannah's
- imagination, to take another example, embraces one horse, one
- dog, two women, four men, one bottle and two electrical
- appliances.
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- Women's fantasies have changed, Friday maintains, since
- her 1973 book, My Secret Garden, in which the leitmotiv was
- submission. The 150 responses culled from the thousands Friday
- says she received this time demonstrate that there has been
- another sexual revolution. Women are now in charge, ``on top,"
- as the title says, in sexual posture and every other way. "I
- will never forget these women," vows Friday, "for they have
- swept me up in their enthusiasm and taught me, too. `Take that!'
- they say, using their erotic muscle to seduce or subdue anyone
- or anything that stands in the way of orgasm."
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- Among the findings that have swept Friday up is that many
- women like sex as much as, if not more than, men. The last time
- the opposite was true was in the 12th grade, but Friday finds
- the phenomenon so surprising that she devotes an entire chapter
- to it. Another change Friday sees from the fantasies of Garden
- to those of Women on Top is the replacement of victim-of-rape
- fantasies with aggressive perpetrator-of-rape fantasies; but
- this is belied by the frequency of bondage and bestiality in the
- new book. Women nowadays, it seems, aren't so much dominant as
- mutually sadistic.
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- Gone are the appealing men, comfortable settings, clean
- sheets and room service of prefeminist fantasies. There is no
- intimacy, comfort or consolation from the sex these women dream
- of, no momentary sensation of not being alone in the universe.
- Instead Friday's courageous respondents' heads are filled with
- thoughts of prisoners, children, animals (farm, zoo and
- domestic) and so much equipment that batteries ought to be
- included.
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- Forget finding anything erotic here. Much of what Friday
- recounts is so unfathomable -- the body has neither the openings
- nor the agility for it -- that it is hardly titillating. The
- book ends up being ridiculous when it isn't repetitive and
- boring, having the effect of an affidavit rather than an
- aphrodisiac. Still, if Friday hadn't padded her pages with
- psychobabble about women claiming their sexual destiny, and
- Simon & Schuster hadn't been willing to print anything to make
- a buck, Women on Top would be available only by mail and would
- arrive in a plain brown wrapper.
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